In defense of Stephen Fry

Not that it's needed of course, he has an excellent post where, as usual, he does a phenomenal job.

However, following the misreporting of what he said, I just wanted to highlight the following from Steven Pinker's "How the mind works" (Chapter 7: Family Values, Page 470, Penguin books, ISBN-13: 978-0-140-24491-5)

"The psychologists R. D. Clark and Elaine Hatfield hired attractive men and women to approach strangers of the opposite sex on a college campus and say to them, "I have been noticing you around campus. I find you very attractive," and then ask one of three questions: (a) "Would you go out with me tonight?" (b) "Would you come over to my apartment tonight?" (c) "Would you go to bed with me tonight?" Half the women consented to a date. Half the men consented to a date. Six percent of the women consented to go to the stooge's apartment. Sixty-nine percent of the men consented to go to the stooge's apartment. None of the women consented to sex. Seventy-five percent of the men consented to sex. Of the remaining twenty-five percent, many were apologetic, asking for a rain check or explaining that they couldn't because their fiancée was in town. The results have been replicated in several states. When the studies were conducted, contraception was widely available and safe-sex practices were heavily publicized, so the results cannot be dismissed simply because women might be more cautious about pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases."

Men and women really are actually different, and whilst it's obvious we both enjoy sex, we do both approach it differently.